If you had to pick one defining feature of Christian dating, what would it be? Coffee-dates after the Sunday service? Sending each other your favourite worship songs? Leaving room for the Holy Spirit? Pondering how great you’d both be at married ministry? If I was going to pick just one, it would have to be … Continue reading Stop Pretending Physical Attraction Doesn’t Matter
Dear Young Catholic Men, I’ve never been on a date. That’s not to say I’ve never been in a romantic relationship; I’ve been in several. I’ve just never been on a classic get-to-know-you date, outside of an official relationship. At the release of Part-time Prophet’s article Young Catholic Men, Why Aren’t We Dating? I couldn’t … Continue reading Young Catholic Men, Why I’m Not Dating You
Young Catholic men, we have a problem.
It’s a problem that is going to require all of our courage, confidence and creativity to solve. It’s a problem that affects many of our friends; it might even be affecting you. Finally, it’s a problem that’s frustrating many of the beautiful, wonderful, young Catholic women in our lives.
We aren’t dating them.
At some point, you’ve probably heard the phrase “Don’t hate the player, hate the game.”
I have. I’ve gotten it from a friend justifying a spontaneous hook up with some guy she barely knew at a party. A couple of times, I’ve heard it from people who made a habit of leading others on, just for the attention. Once, tragically, it was all the explanation a mate could give me right before he cheated on his long-term girlfriend.
About three months ago I was sitting on a couch, listening to a couple of my friends discuss the idea of marriage. Neither of them took what could be called a “traditional” view on the subject and it was probably mere moments before I began raining my Catholic opinion down upon them like the ten plagues of Egypt.