Dear Young Catholic Men, I’ve never been on a date. That’s not to say I’ve never been in a romantic relationship; I’ve been in several. I’ve just never been on a classic get-to-know-you date, outside of an official relationship. At the release of Part-time Prophet’s article Young Catholic Men, Why Aren’t We Dating? I couldn’t … Continue reading Young Catholic Men, Why I’m Not Dating You
Young Catholic men, we have a problem.
It’s a problem that is going to require all of our courage, confidence and creativity to solve. It’s a problem that affects many of our friends; it might even be affecting you. Finally, it’s a problem that’s frustrating many of the beautiful, wonderful, young Catholic women in our lives.
We aren’t dating them.
Yesterday, at 10:30am (local time) the Victoria Police announced that they are filing “multiple charges in respect of historic sexual offences” against Cardinal George Pell.
Pell is Pope Francis’ chief financial adviser, the previous head of the Catholic Church in Australia, and the highest-ranking Vatican official to ever be charged for sexual abuse. He’s also my old boss.
Seems relatively straightforward, right?
Those two little words certainly don’t seem to warrant a 2000+ word, 3 part, explanatory guide. But the reality is that “I’m sorry”, by itself, usually isn’t enough.
More than anything else, I would argue that the vast majority of day-to-day conflict is caused by misunderstanding.
Stephen Covey, the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, writes that people tend to approach things autobiographically – meaning that our approach to conflict is shaped by our own experience, our own motives, our own fears and frustrations.
This issue with this is when someone’s response or feelings fall outside of our understanding we often handle it poorly.
What follows is a series about what has probably been the hardest life lesson I’ve ever had to learn.